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Positive Reinforcement: If You Don’t Do It Right, It Can Backfire!

I recently listened to a Hidden Brain podcast that covered the pros and cons of awards. In one discussion of how awards can backfire, the host described a study of 15,000 California students, where those students who received awards for perfect attendance quit working so hard and instead started to attend school less often! One …

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Why Some Parents Don’t Want Their Kids To Do Chores…

Those of you who have been through one of my coaching programs know that a big piece of my work involves helping kids to share in the responsibilities that come with family life. Usually I frame this in terms of “chores.” Cleaning a shared space, washing the dishes… yardwork… taking out the garbage… walking the …

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Got “Tone”?

One time I heard a parent say that she was surprised that her child could communicate without whining: “I didn’t know that my younger child could regulate his voice! I thought that whining was just ‘his voice’!” As I explained to this mother, whining – or any tone of voice – is a learned habit …

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