We've Streamlined Our Coaching Programs!
"We were literally at our wits' end trying to parent a teen with ADHD and oppositional behaviors through the pandemic and online schooling. Thankfully we found Rebecah Freeling and gave her program a shot. We couldn't be more pleased with the progress after only a couple of months. Rebecah listens to your issues, dives in on the family circumstances, and provides practical, hands-on and simple advice to tackle the "tricky" and unwanted behaviors. The changes have been real and it's put us in a place where we feel in control and more assured of how to respond (and whether to respond) when behaviors flare. Rebecah is terrific -- always responsive to calls for help between sessions and each session ends with a short, practical list of steps to implement for next time. We couldn't recommend her more highly."
--K.R., Ripon, CA
- **These programs are "real-time," not videorecordings; and they are per family, not a group class. We also offer individual sessions, and yes, we work directly with kids, too!
Here's What Happens When You Work With Us
*Parents yell less
*Kids listen more
*Parents and kids solve problems together so that everyone feels heard and everyone gets what they need
*Parents have new tools that can be used long-term, throughout the course of their kids’ development
*All of our programs include between-session email and phone support, so you don't “get stuck” or derailed between sessions.
*We also have school programs that focus on your child’s behavior at school.
In our experience (one of us is a psychologist), and based on what our clients tell us, some main differences between therapy and Wits’ End Parenting are…
1. A difference in focus and strategies. Many if not most therapists focus on feelings and the client’s management of feelings. We focus much more on the family context, and on setting things up so that difficult feelings decrease, so there is less need to manage them. And by family context, we don’t just mean relationships and communication among family members, although these are important. We also look at practical, physical realities, for example, schedules or family routines. Our approach tends to be very concrete and practical, which makes the material easier to implement.
2. A difference in the helping professional’s view of the client and the problem. Psychology and psychotherapy have deep roots in a view of the client as “troubled,” emotionally off-balance, or otherwise deficient. Although some therapists resist pathology-oriented interpretations, a pathology orientation is an integral aspect of most therapists’ training.
3. A difference in focus on the parents vs. the kids. When a child’s behavior is the problem, although many therapists do work with the parents, they tend to work as much or more with the child. In contrast, our focus is less on teaching the child and more on teaching you how to teach your child. We think this if much more efficient. It’s way more effective for you to manage a negative behavior when and where it happens than it is for you to rely on a third-party to attempt to resolve the problem by talking about it a day or a week later in therapy.
If your child does not want to participate in your coaching program, that’s OK. On the other hand, if your child is refusing to participate there’s a good chance they’re refusing to do other things, too! And did you know that these kind of compliance- and cooperation issues are actually best handled in conversations with just the parents? This is why we structure our programs so that our first coaching sessions take place without the kids.
In fact, you can solve all of the problems that bring you to us whether or not your child comes to your sessions — simply because that’s what we do — we teach YOU to solve these problems.
Our approach doesn’t depend on our convincing your child to do things differently. When a child participates, yes, we do help change their perspective, and that’s great. But the main focus of our work is on teaching you to work with your child in ways that get you the changes you’re wanting.
This is a significant difference between our approach and psychotherapy. When a child’s behavior is the problem, although many therapists do work with the parents, they tend to work as much or more with the child. In contrast, our focus is less on teaching the child and more on teaching you how to teach your child. We think this if much more efficient. It’s way more effective for you to manage a negative behavior when and where it happens than it is for you to rely on a third-party to attempt to resolve the problem by talking about it a day or a week later in the office.
Still worried that your program won’t be effective if your kid won’t participate? Check out the Yelp review from Pamela P!