We Want You To Have Success!!
We have learned through hard experience that our clients do not get lasting results without the focus and consistency that comes when they participate in our coaching programs. And this is why we deliver our services in a program format.
Have you read the parenting books and tried the parenting tips – tips that might have worked – but only for a while? The answer is not just more information! Focusing on what you want for your family in a consistent way:
*Gives you the time you need to develop the habits that bring results
*Allows you to get clearer about techniques when they don’t work as planned
*Helps you to get back on track when you’re having trouble being consistent
*Moves you from theory to practice – from knowing about a solution to actually implementing that solution!
Our Coaching Programs
*Help you to resolve the challenges that brought you to us
*Show you how to teach your kids to work with you in a genuine way that works for them and you. Once you learn this, you and your kids can solve all kinds of problems – now and in the future!
*Are efficient, saving you time and money!
*Are worth the investment!! Yes, a program is a commitment – but the increase in harmony and effective communication, and the decrease in stress, anger and overwhelm are SO worth the effort!
*All of our programs include between-session email and phone support, so you don't “get stuck” or derailed between sessions.
*Most of our programs consist of 12 sessions.
*We also have school programs that focus on your child’s behavior at school.
*And we can provide shorter or longer programs if these are a better fit for you.
In our experience (one of us is a psychologist), and based on what our clients tell us, some main differences between therapy and Wits’ End Parenting are…
1. A difference in focus and strategies. Many if not most therapists focus on feelings and the client’s management of feelings. We focus much more on the family context, and on setting things up so that difficult feelings decrease, so there is less need to manage them. And by family context, we don’t just mean relationships and communication among family members, although these are important. We also look at practical, physical realities, for example, schedules or family routines. Our approach tends to be very concrete and practical, which makes the material easier to implement.
2. A difference in the helping professional’s view of the client and the problem. Psychology and psychotherapy have deep roots in a view of the client as “troubled,” emotionally off-balance, or otherwise deficient. Although some therapists resist pathology-oriented interpretations, a pathology orientation is an integral aspect of most therapists’ training.
3. A difference in focus on the parents vs. the kids. When a child’s behavior is the problem, although many therapists do work with the parents, they tend to work as much or more with the child. In contrast, our focus is less on teaching the child and more on teaching you how to teach your child. We think this if much more efficient. It’s way more effective for you to manage a negative behavior when and where it happens than it is for you to rely on a third-party to attempt to resolve the problem by talking about it a day or a week later in therapy.
If your child does not want to participate in your coaching program, that’s OK. On the other hand, if your child is refusing to participate there’s a good chance they’re refusing to do other things, too! And did you know that these kind of compliance- and cooperation issues are actually best handled in conversations with just the parents? This is why we structure our programs so that our first coaching sessions take place without the kids.
In fact, you can solve all of the problems that bring you to us whether or not your child comes to your sessions — simply because that’s what we do — we teach YOU to solve these problems.
Our approach doesn’t depend on our convincing your child to do things differently. When a child participates, yes, we do help change their perspective, and that’s great. But the main focus of our work is on teaching you to work with your child in ways that get you the changes you’re wanting.
This is a significant difference between our approach and psychotherapy. When a child’s behavior is the problem, although many therapists do work with the parents, they tend to work as much or more with the child. In contrast, our focus is less on teaching the child and more on teaching you how to teach your child. We think this if much more efficient. It’s way more effective for you to manage a negative behavior when and where it happens than it is for you to rely on a third-party to attempt to resolve the problem by talking about it a day or a week later in the office.
In rare cases we do work with clients on a session-by-session basis. But we prefer clients to enroll in a coaching program, because we’ve learned from experience that our coaching programs are much more effective.
Your commitment to a coaching program gives you regular, sustained practice in applying new habits and skills. It also provides you with ongoing support. Change doesn’t come simply from intellectual knowledge or understanding; if it were that easy, the thousands of parenting books out there would make coaching irrelevant! Real change means new habits, and new habits take a little time.
In fact, the simple act of conveying and learning new information takes a little longer than you’d think! For example, most of our clients see a much greater benefit when we refine and adjust their implementation of particular techniques over a period of weeks.
We encourage our clients to think of our programs as a commitment to a result. You’re not just getting more information — you’re also getting what you need to translate all that theory into a sustainable solution!